It's a twisted world we live in.

I keep my distance away from people not because I think I'm better but because I'm wise enough to know when my heart has had enough. The scariest feeling is loving someone and still having to live with the fear that, your special someone whom you value so much has not placed as much emotional investments as you have. I've built so many valuable relationships over the years with previous partners , family members, friends and classmates . I've learned to keep my circles small to avoid unnecessary drama and complications but even in these small circles there's only 1 person whom I know will always and has always had my back. Sad reality if it all is that I'd take a bullet for a hand full of them and only one person would do the same for me. I don't speak on it all but I notice , these menal notes I keep have never been wrong, I'm not naive . Life and it's stupid tricks and stupid people how play along to the rules of these stupid games! People who act as though they care but you can see their game plan beneath their skin. People who pull you off the shelf only to use you and put you back onto the shelf when they are done with you. It's all such a twisted game. How someone whispers sweet nothing's into your ear yet turns around and does the complete opposite of what they had promised! They may use you for several reasons. Some may include sexual favors, money and you're material possessions ,a shoulder to cry on in times of need, use you to help them hurt others or to just simply destroy your life. The list is endless! But where are they when you need them? Where are they when you need a helping hand? Gone with the wind, hidden under the carpet! Nowhere to be found! But they are so quick to return when they need a favor . You cannot afford to continue living a life with people who hide themselves under masks of betrayal and lies! Don't be so naive to turn a blind eye on the truth that is happening around you! People continue to take and take over and over again and give you nothing in return. How could such relationships be healthy? Learn to walks way from relationships that no longer build you as person, get rid of all the clutter that is holding you back from being the greatest version of yourself. Life is too short to spend time with people who use you and suck the happiness out of you! Let go ,let God and continue to live your best life.

Group Think -EryKah Badu

Group Think

They play it safe

Are quick to assassinate what they do not understand

They move in packs

Ingesting more and more fear with every act of hate on one another

They feel most comfortable in groups

Less guilt to swallow

They are us

This is what we have become

Afraid to respect the individual

A single person within a circumstance can move one to change

To love herself

To Evolve


-EryKah Badu

In Faith We will Grow

Allow me to reintroduce myself I'm Rethabile,Nonhlanhla Machokwe Mabena.Yes I'm tough,I'm ambitious and I know exactly what I want and I WILL NOT BE STOPPED.If that makes me a bitch then im fine with it.

I'm a small town girl at heart, born in Pretoria and lived half of my life in Witbank and the other in Benoni and Pretoria.I had dreams of being THAT village girl that found gold in the city of eGoli but nothing could've prepared me enough for the real world that I was about to face when I got to varsity. I'm a 2010 so I've been out of varsity for the past 3years! And boy have I learned a lot but because of Gods strengthen and grace I'm blessed enough not to have become a statistic that came to Johannesburg and went back home with nothing but Aids or a baby in my belly.

I've had tough skin all life but going through my parents divorce,the murder of my cousin and having to move from one university to the other was not part of my plan. I graduated from matric at the tender age of 17 and honey I had dreams. Graduating record time at 21,from having my own law firm by 24 ,owning my own international airways to being your first female President.Little did I know that God had other plans for my life,clearly my dreams didn't match his reality for me.This is what we call destiny. We are so sucked in by our own visions that we forget to include the Great Man when we plan our future. I've been through so much I could write 5 or more novels about my life and yet I'm only 20years old. Yes, I'm far from achieving my goals but I thank God that I was able to through these hardships at a young age and able to hold my crown up high and educate other people about my lessons through the battle of running this journey called life.I'm tattooed "DESTINED FOR GREATNES" therefore I'm holding onto my dreams,discipline ,dignity,degrees and dollars THIS INVISSIBLE CROW ON MY HEAD won't fall anytime soon.

This great gift called life at times is just a bit too good to be true and the next minute its filled with hurdles, we win some and we lose some (well so they say) but the most important part of it all is to remain true to ourselves ,who we are and what we stand for.

As an individual you need to understand that you are running your own race. Don't run the marathon in other peoples lanes YOU CAME HERE ALONE ,Like Mariah said "its a long road when you face the world alone"don't expect people to help you through out the race,THIS IS NOT A RELAY and stop looking back at your past hurdles but instead keep focus and be prepared to face the next one. What happens today is a lesson,the scars from today's experiences will be great lessons and stories to tell tomorrow. You came here alone and alone you will leave.

Educate and equip yourself.
Explore your talents and be so GOOD THAT THEY CANNOT IGNORE YOU.
Discover your purpose.
Be in love with your life EVERY MINUTE OF it.
Devote your life to surving the most high God and you will continue to gain long life blessings.
Dream it and live it.
Wear your joy.
Confuse them with a smile.
Work in silence and let your success make the noise.
Be your own hero.

You are destined for greatness,you were crowned at birth and your heavenly father has plans greater than your hearts deepest desires.When God opens doors for you,on one can close them.
God gave you this life because he knew you were strong enough to live it. Leave a legacy for you kids n their grandchildren,you owe it to them.

God gave you this life because he knew that you were strong enough to live it! Make him proud honey! Believe and in faith you will grow.

Lots of love and blessings!
Thabi.M

He who knows will make a way.

"Like stars through the vast circuit of their appointed path,God's purposes know no haste no delay" EG White.

Over time I have discovered there is no absolute finish line for everyone in the race of life. Our tracks are different and our durations are different. The only thing we have in common is the same empire.

For instance, one person graduates @ age 20 and struggles for another 5 years to get a job, another might graduate @ 25 and get a job immediately. One can marry a virgin and wait for the next decade to have the blessings of children, another lady probably after having series of abortions in her past, becomes a mother almost immediately after marriage.

A fellow becomes MD @ 38 and dies @ 56, another becomes MD @ 55 and lives to 90. What a life! Life is full of twists, turns, ups and downs and many more surprises and disappointments.

Life offers each one of us different opportunities and once an opportunity is lost, it's gone forever except by the grace of God. It is up to each one of us to patiently prepare, wait, recognize and utilize every opportunity. We learn on the way. No one knows it all or has it better. There is a reason why we all don't fall @ the same time.

It's so that when one is down, weak and discouraged, the other who is strong, can encourage and lift the other person. God never promised that the road would be easy but he promised never to leave nor forsake us. Although life is a competition, let us learn to go easy on ourselves and trust that God is working it all out for good (even if it doesn't make sense now). I know that there is a time for everything but most importantly that " it will come to pass ". Whatever trials, challenges or down time , this too shall pass and in due course, you will be up and strong again to lift up those who maybe down around you.

NEVER LOSE HOPE...
Stay Blessed

Walking with The Great1

She found inner peace in a cruel world
and realized that letting go is so amazing...

She healed when everyone kept rubbing salt on her open wounds
learning to love herself was the remedy...

She found joy in a place where war was a way of living
exploring new avenues and learning to travel through the valleys of her soul helped to mold the her into the walking ball of fire that she is...

and with every experience
every teardrop
every hurdle and
trial... she learned that she was never alone...

she was walking with the Great1

Dear Coco

It’s probably not just by chance that I’m alone. It would be very hard for a man to live with me, unless he’s terribly strong. And if he’s stronger than I, I’m the one who can’t live with him. … I’m neither smart nor stupid, but I don’t think I’m a run-of-the-mill person. I’ve been in business without being a businesswoman, I’ve loved without being a woman made only for love. The two men I’ve loved, I think, will remember me, on earth or in heaven, because men always remember a woman who caused them concern and uneasiness. I’ve done my best, in regard to people and to life, without precepts, but with a taste for justice.”
― Coco Chanel


Dear Coco
[I hope my daughters live to understand this]

Anthony Hamilton_Best of me

[This is my favourite song at the moment! Got it on repeat! Fell in love with it a few months back as I heard it all the time on Metrofm.It's taken the top spot replacing "Adorn". Its beautiful and those who appreciate good music will surely enjoy it,this is a masterpiece...well done Anthony]

Best Of Me Lyrics
Anthony Hamilton


It's simple, I love it
Having you near me, having you here
Our conversations, Outrageous
you smile, then I smile then I say
ooohhh- this is getting personal, personal, personal
Lets stay for a while, and play, girl lets make this a moment
oohhhh


Chorus:
Giving you the best of me. Amazing, Amazing ooohh
having you close to me, Amazing, Outrageous
give your best to me


Good Morning,
Its breakfast,
Lost track of time but- we had a ball
Lets catch a movie, then dinner,
tonight the night we'll just unwind and stay, hey lets stay personal, personal, personal
lets stay for awhile and play, such a beautiful moment.
oohh

Chorus
Giving you the best of me.oohhh Amazing, somewhat Amazing ooohh
having you close to me, Amazing, Outrageous
give your best to me- giving you the best of me Amazing, giving you the best of me- Amazing
oohh having you close to me-having you close to me- Amazing
Outrageous- oohhhh give your best to me

ooohhhh, ooohhhh, ooooh ooohhh ooohhhhh, ooohhh ( repeated several times)

Chorus ( over and over)

Giving you the best of me. Amazing, Amazing ooohh
having you close to me, Amazing, Outrageous
give your best to me


Giving you the best of me amazing - some what amazing

repeat- Over

oooooohhhhhhh