Many wonder why I've been single for almost 3years now. The reactions on their faces are classic throwing questions like "how have you survived?don't you get lonely?what's your problem?" Or my favorite one"who hurt you that badly".
Well here it is
"If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t, nothing can make him stay. Never let him know everything, he will use it against you later. He’s a man. Nothing more, nothing less. You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship is consisted of two whole individuals. Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are and know that you’re readily available, he will take you for granted.” -Oprah
I want to be in a relationship with the right person,for the right reasons and at the right time.. I've had to take sometime away from the aches and pains,those smiles and those tears and the ups and downs of this love game.I've had to take some time to have conversations with myself and with my heart. I wanted to love myself completely before I could love anyone else,to complete myself before I could call someone "my better half".
I've seen it in my circles of friendships,how we fall into the arms of a person that we do not know simply because we like the "idea" of being with someone else,the "idea" of having someone tell you that your beautiful,that your special and that he will always be there forever. I don't want someone who is going to tell me that he is going to be here forever because no man knows how long forever is. I want a man that going to tell me that he will be here every step of the way,that he will keep me going when I've lost all my strenght:note I said "I want a man" not that I "need a man".
I've been hurt! Felt like I was cheated! Like I had been taken on a ride! Used and abused and I'd be stupid to fall into that trap again! To fall into the arms of a partner that's not willing to catch me! I think I'm worth more than that! Now that I've learned what it feels like to cry,I feel like I also deserve a slice Of happiness and this time I want to be caught before I hit the ground!!
All I'm saying is that we shouldn't rush into things before we are fully sure that we want to.That you should learn to appreciate and love yourself before you could love another person.
I'm at an age where I want stability I'm abit too matured for little micky mouse games that are only going to waste my time.If I'm going to invest my emotions it has to be with someone that I can build a future with,someone who is going to be worth my time and my emotions because these things can get abit emotionally draining and abit heavy on the heart.
You don't want to be in and out of relationships trying to find "the one".Let time play its part and a lot of the time you have to "create, shape and mold" your partner to be the one.
Invest your emotions on people that are going to build you as an individual.don't leave your heart in all these different places with all your ex's.Save some of that love for your life,husband or your wife.You don't want to be wasted and worthless by the time that your life partner has arrived.
We all deserve to be happy! To love and to be loved! Its a beautiful thing.Learn to be selfish with your heart,save your emotions, invest your love and keep it safe for that someone special...it will all be worth it one day.
From;A recovered heart
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